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How To Avoid Getting Teary-Eyed At Work
For those awkward moment when we need to lock ourselves in the toilet and cry
Career 19 Dec 2023


Kim Kardashian crying via Flickr

Working in the art world has multiple pros, but like most professions, it also has its down days too. So, it is not uncommon to have the odd teary eye in the workplace. In fact, I can guarantee we have all had that awkward moment when we needed to lock ourselves in the toilet cubicle to have a good ol’ cry at least once. Crying at work can leave you feeling embarrassed and unprofessional, even during a time when we are more open about our feelings. If you have been there, you might wonder how to stop crying, or how to avoid or delay getting there in the first place.
Here are our top 6 tips to stop the tears from flowing out in the workplace

  1. Take a deep breath
    Firstly, the art world workplace can be a very high-stressful environment, so it’s important not to beat yourself up about the odd tear and remember you’re extremely unlikely to have done irreplaceable damage to your career. No matter how open we are nowadays, it’s still not the best feeling to have the odd cry at work. We suggest practicing deep breathing when you feel the waterworks coming on. Inhale one deep long breath, hold it for a moment, then exhale. Concentrating on your breathing will take your mind off feeling like you are going to weep.

  2. Use your tongue, eyebrows, or muscles
    A great way to stop yourself from crying is by moving those muscles. Power walk around the block or office. A less obvious trick is to push your tongue to the top of your mouth or try to relax your facial muscles – especially those behind your inner eyebrows that tend to come together when you’re sad.

  3.  Take a break and remove yourself away from the situation
    If you think you might start crying and you’re in a setting where you don’t want that to happen, the best thing you can do is remove yourself from that situation. Go somewhere you can be alone, so you don’t feel more pressure about how others may perceive you. Whether that is in the office, bathroom, or going for a walk around the block. Get some water, take some deep breaths, and tell yourself it’s going to be OK. If you want the support call for help from a trusted colleague. Try distracting yourself by focusing on something else other than what nearly brought you to tears.

    Kim Kardashian jumper via cloutgods 

  4. Stop the thoughts that were making you cry
    This one may take some practice. If you can’t physically get yourself away from the situation, that doesn’t mean you can’t mentally get away. Whatever it is that is making you want to cry, think about something totally unrelated. Whether it be that funny meme your girlfriends shared on the WhatsApp group the other week or daydreaming of being on a beach with a Pina colada, take your mind someplace else.

  5. Get rid of those stressors in your life, if you can
    Remember you are too blessed to be stressed! You can take steps to avoid crying at work before it even happens. Make sure you are getting enough sleep and that you are fully fuelled with water and food. Ditch those friends that stress you out and cut out the naughty things in life that give you anxiety, like overdrinking. If your body is out of balance – so is your life. Turning off your phone and avoiding social media can help shut out the outside world at work if that’s the root of the problem too. Also try some upbeat music, essential oils, or yoga and meditation pre-work to aid the chill factor.

  6. Get to the root of the problem and be realistic about your feels
    The final step to take is to figure out what might make you cry and why you cried last time. Try to anticipate situations that might be difficult and prepare yourself. For example, think about what negative feedback you may get in a performance review so you are less shocked. Anticipating these things could help you keep your composure until you get a moment alone. And if you cried in a similar situation in the past don’t avoid it. Face your fears and take the past 6 steps to avoid crying again – you got this!

And hey if none of these 6 tips help, let the tears flow. We are only human after all. Crying is a great stress reliever, which is normally the main reason for those tears.


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